Where are the bisexual guys?
So I’m looking through the followers for this Tumblr page, and it’s great that so many of you are following this, and it gives me the warm fuzzies inside that some of the posts are getting liked and/or reblogged. Especially since the posts here aren’t just a cute picture of a squirrel with a caption, or a .gif from Ugly Betty.
We have 35 followers here, and as I count through you all, three of you are guys.
Oh, and one of those guys is me, from my personal account!
I’m not saying that I’m not happy with having you all following, but it just makes me think. Why are there so few guys on the internet who will admit to being bisexual? Perhaps all of the bisexual guys on the internet are following this blog, all three of us. I’m pretty sure that’s not it, though. Perhaps bisexual guys don’t want to be open on the internet, or maybe they just don’t like tumblr? Is it that there are more bisexual girls in total?
So tell me, dearest followers, where are the bisexual guys?
Jessie J admits she’s bisexual
Apparently there’s been a lot of speculation about Jessie J’s sexual orientation in the “news”. I don’t actually read this sort of “news” too much, because I like facts, I like to know what is happening, not what some “source who wishes to remain anonymous” thinks may be happening.
Sometimes I am quite sceptical regarding pop stars, actors and other b-listers coming out. Not that I don’t believe them. But why do they wait so long to come out to the press. (I’m disregarding those who aren’t out to their families. They should wait till they can come out to those close to them, before coming out to the snivelling dogs we call the press). We now live in the 21st century, and in the western world, it’s a generally accepted fact that people have different sexual orientations.
I don’t think hiding it, suppressing it, and then selling the fact that you’re gay/bisexual/lesbian/trans/queer to the papers helps the matter of acceptance and treating it as it should be, that it’s perfectly normal and ok to be different.
Sometimes I feel it smacks of a publicity stunt, like the closeted star is waiting for a lull in their popularity, to come out of the closet, and wham!, another blast of publicity for them. Girls crying that he won’t love them any more (or as I remember when Will Young was on Make-A-Shitty-Pop-Star on ITV, and when he came out, I was linked to a young woman’s post on an online forum where she claimed to be his girlfriend, and that the gay thing was the press making stuff up. It was quite sad, really).
However, I’m glad to see that with Jessie J, she’s admitted it at what seems to me, the beginning of her career (I’m not into that sort of music as a rule, so I’m only aware of her latest single, Price Tag, and apparently she had a hit called “Do It Like A Dude”).
She told radio station, In Demand;
“I’ve never denied it. Whoopie doo guys, yes, I’ve dated girls and I’ve dated boys - get over it
I like this attitude. It’s a similar one to mine, which is “yeah, I’m bisexual, what of it?”, however, I do like to think that I try and push people to consider bisexuals more, and not just shrug us off as undecided in which way we swing, being attention whores, or just greedy.
I really do hope that Jessie J remains open about her bisexuality, and stands up as a role model for the bi community. There’s plenty of brilliant gay role models out there in the media, but I sometimes feel those who could be bi role models kinda ignore their position, and what they could do with it.